"Normal" interaction with ex in school/work environment

[Depression = 72% of members]

I am three months out of my r/s with no further recycles. My ex-fiance and I attend the same graduate program and so see one another every day. For the last month or so, we have had no meaningful contact aside from polite nods and brief hellos. I've been acting completely disinterested in her to make clear to her that I have no interest in rekindling the relationship. I do not have that hope, though I do think about what went wrong and why everyday.

Do other members have experience with this kind of proximity with their ex following the breakup? We're going to be in the same place for the next three years. At some point, it seems like things should not be as awkward anymore and we could have "normal" interaction as colleagues. When is it safe to do that? I'm worried that any interaction will be interpreted as me wanting to get back together, and that could suck me in to what I know would be a terrible situation for both of us.

[WindReader]

I am three months out of my r/s with no further recycles. My ex-fiance and I attend the same graduate program and so see one another every day. For the last month or so, we have had no meaningful contact aside from polite nods and brief hellos. I've been acting completely disinterested in her to make clear to her that I have no interest in rekindling the relationship. I do not have that hope, though I do think about what went wrong and why everyday.

Do other members have experience with this kind of proximity with their ex following the breakup? We're going to be in the same place for the next three years. At some point, it seems like things should not be as awkward anymore and we could have "normal" interaction as colleagues. When is it safe to do that? I'm worried that any interaction will be interpreted as me wanting to get back together, and that could suck me in to what I know would be a terrible situation for both of us.

[valet]

Normal interactions may be possible, if that's what you truly want. You do have to try and see things from her point of view at a certain point, if you initiate closer levels of contact.

If you don't want to get back together, then why worry about getting back together? As long as you maintain firm boundaries with yourself (which includes keeping your composure in potentially emotionally volatile situations like her wanting you back and you refusing) then I don't think that you will have any problems.