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Author Topic: Do people with BPD leave or cling on?  (Read 573 times)
anabolicaholic

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« on: September 01, 2015, 02:34:53 PM »

has anyone who dated a BPD s/o gotten them to leave. what I mean is make it there idea. I have to tried to initiate a break up several times to no success. I would be nice if she just got it in her head hey this isn't working.

any strategies?
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« Reply #1 on: September 01, 2015, 05:42:18 PM »

Hi anabolicaholic,

Welcome

I'm sorry to hear that. Most pwBPD have insecure attachment styles, unresolved, preoccupied, fearful and in each of the attachment styles the pwBPD want intimacy and fear rejection.

Nevertheless, every study concludes that there is a strong association between BPD and insecure attachment. The types of attachment found to be most characteristic of BPD subjects are unresolved, preoccupied, and fearful. In each of these attachment types, individuals demonstrate a longing for intimacy and—at the same time—concern about dependency and rejection. The high prevalence and severity of insecure attachments found in these adult samples support the central role of disturbed interpersonal relationships in clinical theories of BPD.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1857277/

Are you living with your pwBPD? Here's an article on how to leave a person with BPD and Dr Joe Carve suggests to act boring, talk and share less.

Leaving A Partner with Borderline Personality

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« Reply #2 on: September 03, 2015, 02:39:50 PM »

thanks for the link. I am going to become very boring.
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