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Author Topic: My ex BPD sent me a video burning the gifts and letters I gave to her  (Read 415 times)
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« on: September 10, 2015, 05:36:03 PM »

I received a few weeks ago a video of my ex burning my letters and gifts I gave her when we were dating just because I asked her to give me them back, and she never gave me anything, not even wrote me a letter. And after I found out she spoke horrible things about me that are not true to all her friends and family.

I dont had reaction when I received the video, I never expected for her to do so. That was just ridiculous and insane.

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« Reply #1 on: September 10, 2015, 07:14:29 PM »

She gave you a great gift. She gave you a video reminder of why you are better without her. Anytime you think you should talk to her, watch that video.
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« Reply #2 on: September 10, 2015, 09:16:03 PM »

Ola butterfly27,

I'm sorry that you had to see something like that, to see your thoughtful gifts to be tossed away so easily. Are you doing ok? Were they irreplaceable items?

Overbeck does have a point - that it is important to judge the actions of our BPDexes, because in reality that is who they really are.
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« Reply #3 on: September 10, 2015, 10:34:49 PM »

  If they were to keep your items (gifts and letters), it would remind them of  you.  When they split black, they want to erase reminders of you, since if they kept them it would be painful for them.  Also when they split you black, suddenly all your possessions, gifts, etc. are black too
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« Reply #4 on: September 11, 2015, 02:41:42 PM »

Ola butterfly27,

I'm sorry that you had to see something like that, to see your thoughtful gifts to be tossed away so easily. Are you doing ok? Were they irreplaceable items?

Overbeck does have a point - that it is important to judge the actions of our BPDexes, because in reality that is who they really are.

Sometimes I miss her but I remember that video and the things she did to me ... .I was never a priority in her life, there was always someone else that was between our relationship but she always ended back to my arms saying she loved me and wanted only me, now this feeling is strange because I feel free...

I never thought she would do this to me, this kind of behavior is childish. She wanted me contianesse around like a dog getting the remains of attention and love it when I said I did not want it in my life and she was to give me back my gifts back she acted this selfish and completely insane way.

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« Reply #5 on: September 11, 2015, 07:24:53 PM »

Hey butterfly, I'm sorry. That sounds like an incredibly difficult and painful experience.

How are you doing today?
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« Reply #6 on: September 11, 2015, 07:56:55 PM »

That's not a very nice thing to do to someone... I believe you will be better off without someone like that in your life.
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