I was in a relationship with my ex BPD for 2 years. And for the two years it was a rollercoster. We broke up several times and he would find someone someone new online. He would kick me in and out of his apartment constantly. Finally I moved out and found my own place, several months later he contacts me I let him back in, and he persuades me to give us my apartment, just to break up with me shortly after. Funny how we never manage to spend any holidays together, he always breaks up with me around this time. Finally This last time around I went No contact for 7 months. He was furious, I didn't answer any emails, text, phone calls. He called my Father in another country, called mys sister at work, send her emails, professing his love for me.
Then he contacted me again after being no contact for 7 months. He wanted to apologise for how he treated me, the things he said to me, stuuuupidly I broke no contact and got back together. After a few weeks, he started talking about marriage, we went to a jewelry store on a Saturday to look at engagement rings, talked about venues for the wedding and the people we would invite. I was in la la la land again. ( I know so stupid, Its like I fall for the BS every-time). Now we went to look at the engagement rings on the Saturday and on Monday afternoon he discarded me again, went back to the other women he broke up with me for and is now engaged to be married one month after our break up. (Discarded me by text BTW)He told me to move on with my life as he can never commit to me. its now been about 5 months of No Contact which I will certainly maintain. Obviously there was something about me, that he just couldn't commit to
1) Is this normal behavior?,
At this point I don't even know if he is narcissistic , Border-lined personality disordered, or if he was just an
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2) Is he happy and have finally found the "one"?
I did peek on instagram once and he looks so friggin happy with his fiance and their kids. I Will not look on social media ever again
I've been recycled many times that now I just feel like I've lost respect, love or any other feelings for this person, I'm feeling myself detach from the toxicity.
I've now been 5 months of NC, I've recently started dating again, we are taking things slow, and I did explain to him the mess I was coming from, so he completely supports my decision to take things slow. I really want to make sure that I don't get myself in the same mess with a possible disordered person.
The new person I'm seeing is on my FB. We've hung out and I have pictures of him on there with us at the Hockey game, and hanging out at the pool, at dinner with friends etc. Now that the EX is engaged to be married, and he told me to move on with my life because he could never commit to me, he's happy and all is perfect in his world. At this point I just want him to go away.
I'm inclined to believe that now that he has what he wants fiance, house , kids I shouldn't expect any form of contact from him. My FB is not blocked and I really don't care if he looks, I know for a fact I wont be looking at his nor do I care what he does .
Do they go away when they see that you've moved on?
