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« on: October 20, 2015, 04:10:52 PM »

I have had a chipped tooth. I have been dealing with it for a little longer than I wish now. I have been on my dad's insurance since he was court ordered to pay for my sister and I back in '07. (in which he never does, my mother or I pay the outrageous payments).

I had a huge deformity on my left cheek because of the tooth, that landed me in the ER. I had been to the dentist twice before to get some relief and resolution. But, since I am on my fathers insurance they expect me to pay what he should be paying (over $500) to get my tooth fixed. But that is more than I make. I am also in school, and have a baby that I take care of on top of my bills. I have to wait another week to go to a different dentist after waiting for my secondary insurer.

So I called to him to ask if he could take me off his insurance, because his insurance is useless if it's too expensive for me and he won't even go half with me on the billing. I figured there is no point in having it. I do not ask my Dad for anything, because I know how he is. He wants you to beg,and kiss his butter just to get something that I need.

I forget how controlling BPD's can be. He lied to me three times saying that he talked to the dentist and the Atena insurance carriers. Which I did not believe. Why do BPD's have to complicate everything? Do they realize how stupid they look?

I could see if I was not responsible, but I pay rent, other  bills, go to school, and take care of my son on my income alone. Sorry for the rant. I am just irritated.
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« Reply #1 on: October 20, 2015, 05:35:16 PM »

My mom refused to stop claiming me on her tax returns when I was in college, yet would ask me about twice a year "why don't you apply for financial aid?" I was continually asking her to stop claiming me. Her net contributions to my life/education were about $1000/yr. Nowhere near close enough to have claimed me as a dependent. I was working weekends, and took a part time job at the school. Some weeks in the winter, I had to borrow money to eat, and plan for books and tuition each semester.

The health insurance is another matter, though, because that's affecting your health directly. Any ideas on how to resolve this? Can you call the insurer and have them take you off?
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« Reply #2 on: October 20, 2015, 07:44:29 PM »

My mom refused to stop claiming me on her tax returns when I was in college, yet would ask me about twice a year "why don't you apply for financial aid?" I was continually asking her to stop claiming me. Her net contributions to my life/education were about $1000/yr. Nowhere near close enough to have claimed me as a dependent. I was working weekends, and took a part time job at the school. Some weeks in the winter, I had to borrow money to eat, and plan for books and tuition each semester.

The health insurance is another matter, though, because that's affecting your health directly. Any ideas on how to resolve this? Can you call the insurer and have them take you off?

Ugh, so you understand. I have to borrow money that my mom really doesn't have for food, and gas when I start a new school semester. It's such a pain to know that he is happy literally watching me suffer.  :'(

I don't have my dad's info (Social #, or his Account #) so he has to be the one to take me off. But, he isn't going to do that because, he gets a certain amount of money back during tax season due to my sister and I being on his insurance. He has tried to claim me on his taxes but, my mom never gives him our social#, thank Yeshua. But, no all I can do is hope they take my secondary insurance. If that does not work I don't know what I am going to do. There is no free dental clinic near me. I have to see if my school does free or really low cost dental work on campus.
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