Getting Pressured by BpdH to invite him back home

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I guess the consequences are taking their toll.  He is pressuring me to invite him back. Constant texts, lots of splitting me black, while talking about the possibility of US and how I could repair the damage if I wanted to.

First off, from all the wise people on this board, I know I cannot repair the damage.  I have texted and texted about him getting therapy and meds, and he flat out refuses. So no invitation from me is forthcoming to return home.  All I have to do is spend a couple minutes on the Staying board, to realize I NEVER want to return to that way of life again.

All the same, he has brought me tears. All the texts about what I NEVER do, NEVER did. Why let it bother me?

I have no point to this oost but I wanted to let people know what he is doing tonight. He is not quiet.

Thanks for letting me vent.  :'(

[hollycat]

I guess the consequences are taking their toll.  He is pressuring me to invite him back. Constant texts, lots of splitting me black, while talking about the possibility of US and how I could repair the damage if I wanted to.

First off, from all the wise people on this board, I know I cannot repair the damage.  I have texted and texted about him getting therapy and meds, and he flat out refuses. So no invitation from me is forthcoming to return home.  All I have to do is spend a couple minutes on the Staying board, to realize I NEVER want to return to that way of life again.

All the same, he has brought me tears. All the texts about what I NEVER do, NEVER did. Why let it bother me?

I have no point to this oost but I wanted to let people know what he is doing tonight. He is not quiet.

Thanks for letting me vent.  :'(

[Mutt]

Hi hollycat

I'm sorry you're going through this. I can see how distressing that would feel when our pwBPD want to re-introduce themselves in their lives.

All the same, he has brought me tears. All the texts about what I NEVER do, NEVER did. Why let it bother me?

I can relate to how hard hearing these words are. It's not a reflection of the wonderful person that  you are.

I don't think that you're split black, you're split white and his blaming you for the relationship is a part if the disorder, BPD is a persecution complex and the person affected believes that their circumstances are from the peoples behaviors and actions and project their negative feelings about themselves unto others. Its not your fault.