She smeared me to her family and closest friends but everyone else she says good things about me.
If she recycled me again, her family would be saying What the heck?
Her family thinks I'm a controlling, jealous, monster. But she tells me there was so much good!
My situation is similar to yours. I ran into her a couple months after she dumped me and found a replacement. She is the waif type and has always been fairly self aware of it, however she never really showed remorse or sought help. We go to the same university so it was bound to happen. I'd ran into her before and she was the one who tried to initiate a conversation but I told her to go away basically. The second time I initiated. It was fine, she was nice, she wished me well, she apologised for what she did but still did it anyway, so it didn't mean much. Then a few days later her dad is calling me and my family accusing me of being a stalker. It was so unexpected, especially since there were a couple of days of feeling calm and thinking we were on good terms.
She has been very clearly smearing me to her family. To other people I was wonderful to her but we just weren't compatible and she broke up with me in a bad way which made me act the way I did. I accused her of cheating quite publicly which I really regret since it gave her more ammunition in the smear campaign and it was a bad thing to do in general. She then posted on social media that she wasn't a cheater, but didn't blame me for thinking that and then went on to say I was a great guy. So she didn't want to smear me to people she barely knew, but smeared me to people who were close to her? It has been so confusing.
I think in both of those cases though she has made herself out to be the victim. To people who aren't close to her, she is the victim because she has been so apologetic and understanding but I'm accusing her of cheating and being a bad person. But to her family, she is the victim because I'm apparently a controlling stalker and although she has done all these terrible things, its excusable because of how badly I've treated her. If she said the same things to people she barely knew that she'd dumped me out of the blue and found a new boyfriend within a week, she'd come across as the troubled one, but to her family it seems perfectly logical. I think its a case of adjusting her story to match her audience.
