Getting a diagnosis

[Midgetymom]

my daughter and her husband are having severe marital problems,and are close to divorce.  I feel there is a possibility she may be Borderline.  Has a long family history... .walking on eggshells.  Had a very serious boyfriend die several years ago and has not been able to have stable relationships since,  married a "safe" man, but says she doesn't love him.  He is about to call it quits after 12 years of her craziness. 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[lbjnltx]

Welcome to the Parenting Board Midgetymom

Has your daughter ever been in therapy? 

Losing a significant other is destabilizing for the healthiest of persons.  When a person with BPD (pwBPD) loses someone close to them it can be devastating and may require counseling to move forward in a healthy way.  From the title of your topic it seems you want to know how to get her to go to therapy.

What will happen if the divorce/separation occurs?  Will your d come back into your home?

[livednlearned]

Hi Midgetymom,

I wanted to join lbjnltx in welcoming you to the Parenting board. 

Do you and your D have a relationship where she will talk to you? I had a similar to question to lbjnltx about whether your D has ever been in therapy, or if her H might suspect she is BPD.



LnL