After good period back on my mind.

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HELLO

I was back home for christmas and new years party everything went smooth,  visiting friends lot of time with family, I also dated one girl and we had a nice time toghether not only in bed. Very good time in my country I was realy busy with my stuff,  but yesterday I was driving back here (I work abroad) she came info my head with lot of thoughts that she is my second half... .I snaped out from it today morning,  anyway it's iritating that from time to time she crosses my mind. We are not toghether for 6 months nów... .How long you guys were healing from your r/s untill you could control your feelings about your SO?  I want to know better the girl I met during my short christmas vacations but my ex shows up in my mind from time to time... .

[Pablo826]

HELLO

I was back home for christmas and new years party everything went smooth,  visiting friends lot of time with family, I also dated one girl and we had a nice time toghether not only in bed. Very good time in my country I was realy busy with my stuff,  but yesterday I was driving back here (I work abroad) she came info my head with lot of thoughts that she is my second half... .I snaped out from it today morning,  anyway it's iritating that from time to time she crosses my mind. We are not toghether for 6 months nów... .How long you guys were healing from your r/s untill you could control your feelings about your SO?  I want to know better the girl I met during my short christmas vacations but my ex shows up in my mind from time to time... .

[Mutt]

Hi Pablo826,



Healing is different for everyone. It's not a linear path. We may be able to over most of the pain and sometimes there is pain that we don't get over entirely. It sounds you were with your ex girlfriend for about 2 - 3 years. Is that correct? Your mind conjured a thought that she was your second half, it sounds like they were all good thoughts. It helps to stand back and look at the bigger picture and look at the relationship from the beginning to the end and balance it with bad thoughts too. What else do you find yourself thinking about when you think about your ex?

[circularref]

I've had the same thing as you yesterday. It helps me to try to remember all the bad side of the relationship. Maybe you can make a list on your phone or something that you can look at when your brain tries to pull this trick on you?

[Pablo826]

Yes Mutt the r/s between us was 2 years and something it was very emotional with lot of drama  after 2 months... .It was a very spectacular connection between us and the intimacy this is the thing I miss the most I think. On the other side like you said "big Picture" is lot of things I do not like and do not accept,  anyway I let her did stuff she did to me and herself... .Yes it feels like my brain is playing with me even I know she not healthy for me and people who cares about me thinks the same sometimes something triggers such thoughts in my mind. But I think I am on a good road to completly heal after this "sweet Hell"