I need help with my ex who i believe has BPD

[ijustlove8]

Hi my ex of 8 years moved out over a year ago and said he needed his space. since then we don't talk much nut we see eachother he spends the night sometime and we still talk about our future together. Im not 100% sure he has a personality disorder but he show 100% of the signs of someone with it. I am still heart broken and I love him with all of my heart. I want to be with him and if I cant im not sure how to move past this. This is the most confusing and hurtfull thing I have ever experienced.

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[Bigmd]

Can you explain what makes you believe he is a borderline ?

[ijustlove8]

Hi bigmd... .Well I believe he is a borderline because  he moved out over a year ago his initial reason was he didn’t love me anymore and that he needed to figure himself out After he moved out we talked and eh visited a few times then he just wouldn’t answer any of my calls or text For about a month. Then he pops back into my life and tells me how much he loves me and ever since then he does the same thing over and over . When I ask him if he wants to be with me he says not right now. He also stopped talking to everyone around him including his parents.  He is very caring but sometimes he says things that really hurt like I need to be like other women and let a man lead or how he cant be with someone who doesn’t understand their self or someone who isn’t strong (I am none of these things).  Then he will come back in a few days and apologize for saying these things and say how he didn’t mean then and how sometimes he feels like im going to leave him? He told me that he is a GOD. I love him truly. I asked him if he felt depressed and he said “I hate the tittles people put on each other”