asking to borrow potty

[bravhart1]

I would ask a big favor of a close friend. I'd ask that friend to follow, film or photograph and write down everything dad does and where he goes on his visit. It's the only way you will know for sure she isn't being abused.

I get you aren't trying to make trouble for or with him, but this is your baby, and it sounds like she is traumatized by him. Your words say it all, she isn't fearful of going with people, even relative strangers, but she's desperate to avoid being with him. Please listen to that.

I think you are well within your rights and expectations to ask for supervised visits. Maybe ask his sister to come be with her brother do so he can visit for a few hours on Saturdays, or maybe another friend, perhaps it doesn't have to be formal in court but by agreement, but don't let him continue whatever he's doing.