I've been lurking for the last couple of weeks since it finally dawned on me that our 20 year old son has been demonstrating BPD traits. It's a relief and scary, too. It's been a long road, but I'm hoping that through the great information and personal stories I've found here, we might be able to get him the help he needs.
I'm sure it's a familiar story: tough puberty filled with defiance and blame. 2 years at a military high school. The next 2 years at home pretty depressed and isolated. Happily he has been open to counseling, but somehow things were missed or disguised. His binge drinking led to rehab that he was asked to leave after family week
. He's been on the opposite coast the last year doing ok, sober living, a job, etc. Came home for shoulder surgery over the holidays when his girlfriend dumped him long-distance, thus the ensuing spiral that tipped me off. We may have found a good therapist familiar with DBT, so there is reason to hope.
Just wanted to say hello and thank you for sharing and helping!