So my ex's apartment is right by mine on campus. And I have been seeing her a lot recently at the bus stop. See has yet to actually see me, but I keep seeing her when im in the car.
When I see her I get extremely nervous and anxious. It's gotten to the point where I will walk across campus instead of taking the bus just because she might be on it.
I have no idea how a possible encounter would be. But I am sure regardless of what she might do (rage, ignore me completely, try to talk to me) it would set me back.
I don't know what to do. I'm also worried that she could possibly see me with my new gf and flip out or something.
Hey,
The anxiety you're feeling is completely normal. It'll pass as time goes on. I work with my ex (diagnosed, medicated, and supposedly 4mo in DBT). I understand all to well avoiding them because seeing them hurts to much. You're grieving the person you knew. Even if that person wasn't "real", they were real to you.
I can understand your hesitation of having an encounter with her, even if you have a new gf. You truly never know how they'll react. However, there will come a time where you'll not avoid places because she may be there. As an adult, that's life. Many of us have had interaction with our exes after they became exes (BPD or not). Once you feel ready, you'll know. Don't rush it. What you're experiencing is normal. I've been there myself (twice now!).
Be good to yourself.
