Dragging it out...

[FigureIt]

It's been a while since I've posted.  I finally took the step and began the process to end my relationship with my uBPDbf.  The problem other than BPD that existed was that we own a house together and he refused to leave.  I have a D10 from my previous marriage that lives with us and is in school, therefore I couldn't just up and leave either.  Also the down payment to purchase the home is my money from the sale of my previous house, which he refuses to pay me.

In December I met with an attorney had a letter drafted and sent to him which stated my intent.  At the same time his elderly father with alzheimers was passing, which happened right before xmas.  My uBPDbf said he would meet with an attorney in January and begin the process.  He never met with an attorney I guess called and hired one over the phone with a plan to meet (turns out it's my ex-husband's attorney - which he knows and did on purpose).  Month of January his elderly mother's health began to deteriorate which has been up and down since till the present.  February, I followed up with mine about him being served papers from the court.  My attorney informed me that his attorney was told my uBPDbf's mother had a month to live (an exaggeration by uBPDbf). 

So, NOW I'm in limbo.  I've been trying to make the best of the situation.  My uBPDbf thinks he can do things to "win" me back but the love that was once there is GONE!  I got nothing.  The problem is if I go aggressive and demanding he will get very nasty back and with my D10 living in the same house I can't do that to her.  I feel very fake.  I am sorry he has to go through this with his mom now, but I can't be his support.  It is so very frustrating!