First MC session gave me hope that there are good intentions

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

1. Proper boundaries--your wife gets to choose her church and friends, you get to choose your church and friends.

2. Reality of your marriage--it doesn't go that way. (History of poor boundaries in is your wife smashing over yours, not the other way 'round!)

The interesting thing is that if she followed the biblical teaching of the place she is drawn to, these things would not be true.  Role of women and the decider about spiritual matters in the home are clearly drawn.

Perhaps she likes to be in situations where the rules say one thing but because she is "special" or whatever she gets to do it another way. 

FF

Addressing this from the perspective of your wife's hypocrisy isn't going to help anything, and I think you already know that. And most importantly, you need to look to your own moral compass, not that of a disordered person... .and not with the goal of ending her hypocrisy.

What do YOU personally believe, and how do you personally want to live your life and operate your household?

Are you a boundaries person who believes that both you and your wife get to make their own individual choices?

Do you follow the biblical teachings that you are the decider about spiritual matters in the home?

Make your choice, and live your values.

[Grey Kitty]

1. Proper boundaries--your wife gets to choose her church and friends, you get to choose your church and friends.

2. Reality of your marriage--it doesn't go that way. (History of poor boundaries in is your wife smashing over yours, not the other way 'round!)

The interesting thing is that if she followed the biblical teaching of the place she is drawn to, these things would not be true.  Role of women and the decider about spiritual matters in the home are clearly drawn.

Perhaps she likes to be in situations where the rules say one thing but because she is "special" or whatever she gets to do it another way. 

FF

Addressing this from the perspective of your wife's hypocrisy isn't going to help anything, and I think you already know that. And most importantly, you need to look to your own moral compass, not that of a disordered person... .and not with the goal of ending her hypocrisy.

What do YOU personally believe, and how do you personally want to live your life and operate your household?

Are you a boundaries person who believes that both you and your wife get to make their own individual choices?

Do you follow the biblical teachings that you are the decider about spiritual matters in the home?

Make your choice, and live your values.

[SlyQQ]

You might consider post traumatic stress syndrome that has exacerbated some abandoment issues your wife

had. It would appear almost identical to BPD but would be a lot more likely to be resolved easily an may have to be handled slightly differently.

[formflier]

You might consider post traumatic stress syndrome that has exacerbated some abandoment issues your wife

had. It would appear almost identical to BPD but would be a lot more likely to be resolved easily an may have to be handled slightly differently.

No official diagnosis.  If anything my wife is most likely high functioning PPD rather than BPD.  Or if there is a presentation of BPD that is heavy on paranoia.

FF