She flied for divorce already but I don't/can't trust it.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I haven't posted in a while.  You will need to research my posts if you want to learn about my experiences.  I will tell you I was with my expwBPD for 19 years.  So, she finally filed divorce.  But this is why i'm iffy:

1.  I went NC in October.  She started the process, without me knowing, about a week after I was not respoding anymore.

2.  Four months later, during the week of Valentine's day, she made an effort to 'run into me' at my kids school.  She did and very awkwardly waved hi to me.  Hard to explain.  During this time, she officially filed.  She's respected my space during NC. 

3.  She left me abruptly.  We foreclosed on our home and financially we are screwed.  She was having an affair again.  But, in her petition she is stating that I kicked her out.  This can easily be proven as a lie.

4.  She lied to get financial assistance from the county for her divorce.  She makes very good money on her own.

Am I just being paranoid by not taking this seriously or is she thinking clearly?  I countered the petition.  I mean the divorce is happening but I don't have peace of mind.  I don't trust it.  We've been coparenting but now she wants to screw me.  I'm not looking for legal advice but more insight on the BPD.

[Joem678]

I haven't posted in a while.  You will need to research my posts if you want to learn about my experiences.  I will tell you I was with my expwBPD for 19 years.  So, she finally filed divorce.  But this is why i'm iffy:

1.  I went NC in October.  She started the process, without me knowing, about a week after I was not respoding anymore.

2.  Four months later, during the week of Valentine's day, she made an effort to 'run into me' at my kids school.  She did and very awkwardly waved hi to me.  Hard to explain.  During this time, she officially filed.  She's respected my space during NC. 

3.  She left me abruptly.  We foreclosed on our home and financially we are screwed.  She was having an affair again.  But, in her petition she is stating that I kicked her out.  This can easily be proven as a lie.

4.  She lied to get financial assistance from the county for her divorce.  She makes very good money on her own.

Am I just being paranoid by not taking this seriously or is she thinking clearly?  I countered the petition.  I mean the divorce is happening but I don't have peace of mind.  I don't trust it.  We've been coparenting but now she wants to screw me.  I'm not looking for legal advice but more insight on the BPD.