What a sucky situation, I'm sorry you're going through this.
It feels rotten when you can't even confide in your mother that you're feeling upset about an illness or health issue. I'm in that same boat. Any ailment I've had, she's also had and it was way worse. It's all about them and their experience. Empathy from them feels impossible. I can't even comment that I'm turning 40 because she's turning 60 and that's worse. Just wanted to say "I feel you" on this post. Hope your tooth is better soon! I'm going for a root canal this month and I'm pretty anxious about it too.
Thank you Amelia. I learned as a child that when I told my mother I was sick that made it worse. I wasn't looking to confide in my mother. I resent the fact that I'm supposed to feel empathy for her but she won't feel empathy for me, not just by her, but also by my father.
My tooth is going to be extracted later this week, I haven't had an extraction since I was a child and that is part of my family lore. I had to have two teeth extracted as a child because there was not enough room in my mouth for all my permanent teeth and one of the teeth broke as my dentist was extracting it so my parents had to take me on the bus to the oral surgeon. Rather then comfort me, my mother got upset at the dentist who broke the tooth and the inconvenience of having to take me on the bus with a broken tooth. My parents didn't even call a cab.
I've had 3 roots canals, if not 4. They're not fun, but they do the job and once you recover there are no more problems. You'll be fine!
