
HEY Mman'
Welcome to BPD FamilySorry to hear about the problems with your son. Did he have mental issues in his younger years? It must seem like you have an angry teenager back in the empty nest.
My son is 46 and has been diagnosed with BPD by one of the latest numerous psychologist he has consulted. He admits having narcissist traits and has suffered a number of depressions. He is very intelligent and educated but he has not worked in 3 years.
How was his employment history, prior to his 3-year unemployment? Has he applied for any jobs recently?
Is he taking any meds for his depression? Does your son get any exercise?
Have you read any books about BPD? I found Stop Walking on Egg Shells rather enlightening.
Sounds like you have done a little work with
BOUNDARIES. Depending on where you live and if he isn't cooperative with leaving, you may have to serve him an Eviction Notice.
He might need some help to get out of his depression. When did you establish the 7-1-16 deadline to move out? Are you open to some negotiation with him on that date, perhaps if he reaches some milestones with things like: getting treatment for his depression, look into disability insurance and/or some vocational rehab.
Is there anyone willing to help guide him to some assistance?
Information at these links on
COMMUNICATIONS and
FOG might be helpful.
With the 7-1-16 deadline around the corner, I can see that it is stressful. I'm still in a learning curve regarding BPD in regard to my uBPD sister. I'm sure someone more seasoned might have some better advice to add.
