I don't plan to ever date again.

[ReclaimingMyLife]

 :)on't let it break you, let it better you... .

T H I S.

This is it exactly.  Well said, bunny!

[flourdust]

I am 52 and don't have that same "drive" that I used to. That "drive" made me want to date/have sex when a relationship ended and I was over it. Maybe it is because of my age, maybe because of my circumstance and PTSD or maybe because I was so totally committed to her and couldn't fathom myself with another woman, but I just don't want to get into another relationship.
I don't trust anybody anymore and I certainly don't trust myself to pick a good partner.
I just want peace in my life and to be without the drama or hassle of somebody's else's ___E.

This is pretty much where I am. This is not just a bad relationship I can bounce back from -- this was my marriage of more than a decade! I do not trust myself and my dating instincts -- they clearly got me into a lot of trouble. I need time to heal, to rebuild my life, and I'm going to take that time.

[bunny4523]

I think what makes me sad about this post is "I don't plan to EVER date again."

We can all get through this and we can love and be in a healthy relationship again one day.  I'd love to modify the subject line to "I'm not ready to start dating yet" or "I'm not going to start dating today" 

Please don't project this ugliness into your future, leave it in the past.  Work through it in your present and be hopful for your future. 

I remember thinking that my ex ruined the last 6 months of my life... .I will not let him have even one more day... .  So anytime I would get mad, I would try and remember that and just process whatever I was feeling at the moment and release it.  Remind myself that it is over now and I am safe.  It isn't an easy thing to do... .the longer you stay in these relationships, I think the harder it is to sort through all the junk so give yourself time.  I wish you all the best and I really hope you all find your way out of this to a life of happiness.  If you could look into a crystal ball a year or two from now and see yourself happy and all this truely behind you... .would it help you today?

Bunny