Tough time tonight

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

It's my first few weeks without my ex. She's been trying to get in touch threw friends. I've ignored requests to call her. But it's driving me crazy because I still have that craving to talk to her. i also have the urge to just hear her voice. I haven't done that because nothing will ever change with her. I'm just having to fight that urge it seems like hour to hour not to give in. Any advise is welcome.

[Nyla]

It's my first few weeks without my ex. She's been trying to get in touch threw friends. I've ignored requests to call her. But it's driving me crazy because I still have that craving to talk to her. i also have the urge to just hear her voice. I haven't done that because nothing will ever change with her. I'm just having to fight that urge it seems like hour to hour not to give in. Any advise is welcome.

[myself]

The first part of this is probably the hardest part. Believe in yourself.
If you're done, be done. Go through the withdrawals, change patterns, etc.
Introspection, time, and letting go will help you find your balance.

[Turkish]

Hi Nyla,

Sometimes I think it's harder for those here who chose to leave,  rather that were left.  She cheated,  and that's a horrible betrayal.  Mine did too. You've said that you're still in love with her,  which is harder.  Is it confusing that she's reaching out to you?  

T

[Nyla]

Thanks for the advise. Her reaching out actually makes me feel worse! It makes me feel as if she's just trying to use me as a back up plan! I know it's not about any love she feels for me. She just wants me around so if it doesn't work out with the new girl. I can say yes I'm still in love with her but she's not good for me. I have made it one more day without talking to her though. So I guess that's something. I appreciate everyone on this site I would be lost without everyone.

[Turkish]

How are you now? 

[Nyla]

I made it threw last night. I think it's hardest on the weekend. That's when I get texts all day and night. She's a musician so I don't get a break on weekends. I tried blocking them and she just uses someone else's cellphone. It's a new break up so maybe over time it will let up.