Hi MrsTrigger
It seems you're tired of these angry feelings, especially from your mentioning of waking up several times a night. Yes, it can interfere with other parts of your life. I did feel emotionally exhausted, so I do relate in this way to your breakup. I couldn't sleep for a few days amongst other things. I think it's quite fair to expect some level of exhaustion. I do recall someone describing this as a "burnout" of feelings, or "emotional burnout".
I'm tired (literally due to waking up several times a night) of feeling this way and having this interfere with my life. I'm questioning if this is depression and need to talk to my therapist about these new feelings. I've been trying to sit with each emotion and face it head on but I feel like I need some relief from these feelings. I am actually considering meds but I don't want to inhibit progress. Anyone else go through this period a few weeks after a breakup?
Based on this, I encourage you to try to be compassionate with yourself. It's hard to do when we feel so angry, but when you can do it, try to, it makes it easier when you're engaged in a process of resolving the anger. Nurse yourself as you would a friend. I found this hard because I'm a "get on and go" sort of person. It seems to me that you're similar in the way that you don't want to "inhibit progress". Finding something you love doing can help. For me that includes walks, running, and ice-cream.
We can't want to gobble down all the anger and be done with it in 30 minutes. You can't eat 80 years of food as a toddler and not eat again. Seems to be similar with anger. Self-compassion helps.
