Shattered

[Kelli Cornett]

Nope, he has all the BPD traits bar the obvious self harm, he doesn't cut but he does have alcohol and substance abuse problems.

NPD's are too. How arrogant he is towards you, and thinking he's above you isn't really a BPD trait. They have low self esteem.

[Sadly]

Sorry, I seemed to have missed something. He wasn't arrogant towards me, he was cruel and unkind and rude. He has very low self esteem he just hides it well when he has to. He didn't like that I saw that, I think he thought it made him look weak. Like I said, he ticked every BPD box just as I eventually realised I ticked a couple of codependency boxes, my learning curve. I have a friend who has a NPD motherinlaw and sisterinlaw, worlds apart from my ex.

[lovenature]

The feelings and love you felt and shared were real for you, the disorder prevented him from accepting and reciprocating real mature love.

You know that he is projecting and making up his own reality to defend against the emotions he can't handle on his own.

Always remember that BPD is a serious mental illness and when we are embroiled in it we can't see things clearly; try to go complete NC, I know how painful it is-my ex. lives across the street and I have failed NC many times. I am now over 9 months out and things get clearer the longer you stay away and the more you learn.

Keep going Sadly, you can get through this.