The night terrors are over, thank goodness. But still get random wake ups with nightmares (only once this week). As sson as they wake up, they shout "mom!". They do know I sleep there, though I go to bed after they fall asleep, they see me there in the morning. As mentioned, realized I need a bettter solution and will move downstairs with a baby monitor. At least I will have my own space.
I would recommend coordinating this with their T. Is it the same person? Do they go together or have separate appointments?
I recommend getting very specific with T and make sure you are on same page with regards to when you move downstairs, when kids are told about move and how kids are coached on dealing with their emotions after waking up from a nightmare.
Also, when you hear it on the baby monitor... .how long will you let them attempt to self-soothe, with whatever strategy agreed on in T, before you enter the room.
It's very obvious the deep amount of love you have for your kids and that you value them as you make decisions about yourself and your relationships. This is a good thing.
I've got 8 kids, so very familiar with the incredible range of emotions that one can experience, when looking at what can appear, at first, as a no win situation. We all want our kids to "win".
I recommend discussing Gottman's work with your kids T. Also ask who or what they base their T strategy on. You want the efforts of the T to be a supplement to your efforts at home, vice a distraction. Important you are on same page.
www.positiveparentingconnection.net/how-to-raise-an-emotionally-intelligent-child/Last thought: It is important that you are intentional about parenting and guiding your children. It's just as important that you AVOID parenting your spouse.
Easier said than done. If you read my posts there is a strong "paternalistic" manner that I approach my wife with. I work on it... .it's not easy to get away from.
Especially when an adult is throwing a tantrum like a 3 year old.
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