Is this a sign I'm getting better, more aware, and less vulnerable to the damage caused by my experiences with exBPD partners?
Yes it is SAFB, it's a progression, a great one. When we start looking at our part in all this, when we start being aware of what we were thinking, what we were believing, why we did the things we did, it all contributes to becoming more self-aware. And then, once to get to know ourselves better, we can look at all of the relationships in our life and decide if they are healthy, unhealthy, empowering, disempowering, supportive, unsupportive, and most importantly look at our part in them and what we make things mean. It's a wonderful adventure, and as we take it we may find that we need to remove some people from our lives, including a borderline probably, and then realize that our relationship with a borderline started all this analysis of our lives, and for that we're grateful, one, and two, we're less likely to get into relationships like that again.