Confused and betrayed by best friend

[Scyphozoan]

I do not know where to begin... .

I have opened my own business and got conned many times in the in the last two years... .

My landlord ( lady) offered to help navigate the treacherous ways of the business world... .we have been close since July... .and she knows everything about me... .
She also made for me some connections that helped somewhat, but it was her attitude of : " get up I went through this 20 years ago and look at me know... .I will help you get through this"... .!

She did... .until I made the fatal mistake of contacting my Ex with BPD last Friday night to get medication since we ( me and the kids were sick vomiting etc)... .

He apparently didn't like the friendship and that I was doing so well, he asked me to give him my best friend number just to make sure I am not in trouble... .

I reassured him I am not in trouble, and was like: " here you can even ask her"... .!

Well, needless to say he claimed to be my boyfriemd for a year and a half,,,and that I was " hiding him"... .really ? all 5 months I was hiding him?
He called her and told her I was a liar, ( don't forget, I interrupted his date Friday night and I think he got pissed"

I was so shocked that my friend, who was like a mentor to me and guided me so much believed him... .over me... .( granted he is a millionaire... .she is in realestate... )

She called me a liar, after which she apologized, he kept in the last three days messages for her on face book... .
and she basically said... ." Hey listen, this is too complicated for me... .I wish you the best "... .and nothing more... .

I am stunt... .just stunt... .why ? she didn't even want to hear my side of the story and didn't answer any of my txts... .neither all the powerful friends that were helping me get my business back... .


I can not believe she told my Ex wBPD how I fell into a ponzy Scheme ( he was happy you have no idea)... .and everything about me... .

Moreover ... .He keeps sending her facebook messages of what a liar I am... .all the while he just left me just now... .a message inviting me to his office Christmas party... .( this he did not tell her)


Reading all these my dear and experienced friends... .please tell me... .what kind of friend ( her) does that... .?
She kept on and on " teaching me" on how to not trust men... .etc... .
how can a person change in 6 hours... .and be so mean... .?

I have helped her ( through my expertise)... .throughout all the difficulties with her current boyfriend ... .many times she wrote him off... .and I calmed her down... .and she thanked weeks later... .

I am so so hurt, my heart is bleeding... .she was like a sister to me... .

I have apologized since she wrote :" how inconsiderate I am bothering her at work... ." and I am still in a state of shock... .

Is she borderline?... .she has a group of friends that she introduced me to and they have been her friends for a long time... .

I am asking here... .pleading here with anyone that might have some type of an inclination... .how does one turn their back with a snap of a finger on good solid friendship... .before that Ex BPD entered that pics, just to go down and get pepto while I was attending to my other little ones in the bathroom... .)

My heart is bleeding... .I keep getting emails ( that go to trash)"... .I have exposed the real you... .now everyone will know about your cheating and lying... ."
He is soon happy he had ruined  my friendships with the girls... .and the " one that cared so much about me"... .
Why so much hatred... .he can have any woman in the world he wants... .
Why does he want to harm me... .hurt my credibility... .?

I have made a grave mistake... .I innocently wanted to show him... .everything is good... .he insisted he cared just wanted to check up on me... .
I didn't know it meant destroyed my world... .
Guess what... .?... .Now he is invited to all their parties... .and I am left out like a dog... .

what just happened?
over night my life turned from on top of the world to... .bottom of the pit... .


I am at a loss of words and I think I am loosing my sanity... .


Desperately yours

[gotbushels]

Hi Scyphozoan 

When problems come from contacted an ex pwBPD, and we get very deeply hurt from events following from that, it's real for many of us. You aren't alone with somehow searching for an ex after the relationship is over. I think it's also quite common for us to assume that everything is "okay" just because our experience after the breakup caused us to settle to some kind of normalcy. That assumption can sometimes catch us off guard when we are in a moment of missing an ex.

When people we have grown to feel comfortable with pull away from us, it can hurt. That's alright.

If we put effort into a friendship to help someone feel better about a problem, we may expect some kind of reciprocation. This may or may not have been what your friend was thinking when she spoke with you about her own relationship problems. The alternative is that you and this friend may have expected different things from this friendship.

Where are you in your recovery Scyphozoan?