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« on: December 17, 2016, 05:00:09 PM »
Was just trying to be nice so texted exBPDbf to let him know I found some of his movies in my stuff. Big mistake. His new on again off again GF who has BPD and PTSD reads all of his messages, texted back on his phone pretending to be him saying I was harassing him, he was calling the cops etc. then he blocked me on Facebook.

The couple of weeks that they had split up he initiated texts to me about moving my stuff to the barn and was acting normal.

She is seriously crazy and scary.
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« Reply #1 on: December 17, 2016, 07:12:53 PM »
Hi tammym1974,

That's frustrating. She's rescuing him and casting you as persecutor. I mentioned a couple if things about my exes bf in the past and she automatically rescues him. Can you ship his movies?

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« Reply #2 on: December 17, 2016, 08:16:10 PM »
Mutt, he doesn't seem to worried about getting them so I'm just holding on to them now. I'm not going out of my way to be nice again. Every time I do I get more abuse.
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« Reply #3 on: December 17, 2016, 09:39:03 PM »
Self protection with no contact is a good idea for now.
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« Reply #4 on: December 18, 2016, 06:42:49 PM »
Yes. At this point I think that is best. Hopefully maybe after they break up again I can take him his movies and get his stuff. It's really tough when you have no car. He took that too.

I moved an hour away. Needed to be away from anything that reminded me of him.
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« Reply #5 on: December 18, 2016, 11:00:15 PM »
Hi tammy

I know it is tough to maintain NC, the pain gets so bad you just want to stop it by having contact, but you know that just leads to more pain.
Don't allow yourself to be a part of the drama triangle, stay NC, let him and her go through the inevitable: the cycle ALWAYS repeats.
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« Reply #6 on: December 19, 2016, 04:56:33 PM »
You are so right lovenature. I was doing pretty good until I found those stupid movies and decided to text him.
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« Reply #7 on: December 19, 2016, 05:07:44 PM »
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I was doing pretty good until I found those stupid movies and decided to text him.

Remember this the next time you are tempted to communicate with him, and come here for support instead.
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« Reply #8 on: December 19, 2016, 08:23:45 PM »
Quote from: lovenature on December 19, 2016, 05:07:44 PM
Remember this the next time you are tempted to communicate with him, and come here for support instead.

I will, thank you
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