Merry Christmas

[K-nine]

Merry Christmas everyone .
I wanted to apologise for not being around. I broke my right hand 6weeks ago for the sixth time.
So today I got to see my grandson ,first time in 3 months, it's was joyous and painful . He is so beautiful but still his mother will not let him in my home even when she isn't there.
I won't be seeing him or my son on Christmas Day and it's killing me. I should count my blessing for at least seeing him but he is so beautiful so being kept from him breaks my heart, my son put a wedding photo of the three of them by my bedside and I feel like it's just another stab to my heart.
I know this time of yr is hard on everyone. , I am putting on a brave face but actually I am so angry I am doing Christmas Eve dinner for a mentally disabled neighbour that has come to rely on me . He is living assisted but has server mental health issues and has no family , he is blind. Anyway I'm trying hard to keep busy.
I am sorry this was meant to be a nice post. I am. Sorry  pleas xhavexthe best Christmas you can. And thank you from the bottom of my heart xoxox

[Notwendy]

Hi K-nine,

So sorry that Christmas is sad for you. It is a good step that you got to see your grandson. Hang in there- and I hope there will be more occasions.

What a wonderful thing you are doing for your neighbor.

That picture- put it in a drawer. When your son and his family come to visit, take it out for that- then put it back in the drawer. You don't have to look at it.

Do something nice for you this Christmas too.

[Kwamina]

Hi K-nine,

Thanks for the update. I am glad to hear from you again. You are still dealing with a difficult situation. You got to see your grandson which is positive, yet unfortunately a lot of the other things haven't changed. I can understand why you are having a hard time now, considering everything that has happened and especially now during the holidays these things are extra hard.

What did your son tell you when he put that wedding photo by your bedside? Has he said anything new about the situation with his wife and how he views her and also his own behavior? I too would have very mixed emotions about that photo after all that has happened.

I think it is wonderful that you are making dinner for your neighbor. That says a lot about your character  

How is your hand now? I hope it healed well.

Take care and in spite of everything, Merry Christmas to you too!

The Board Parrot

[P.F.Change]

Hi, K-nine,

We all come to the board when we need to, and take a break when we need to. There's not a right or wrong, and you can come as often as fits your situation.

I can tell it is very painful for you to not be as close with your grandson as you would like, and I am happy you got to spend some time with him recently. It sounds like you enjoyed that time with him. I like that you have come up with a solution for Christmas Eve. I hope you will feel joy in it. We get to choose how we look at things and what we focus our attention on, and you can acknowledge your pain without allowing it to ruin your holiday. You can even be happy if you want to, whether or not your loved ones are next to you. It's a merciful thing to reach out to your neighbor during this time. Remember to  nurture yourself some, too.

Thanks for the lovely thoughts you've shared with us. I hope you have a Merry Christmas, too!

Wishing you peace,

PF