Time to think...

[NewStart]

Well, my uBPDwife and stepson headed out world traveling for the holidays and not back until after the New Year which will give me time to think I hope... .time to maybe gain some clarity.

For months we've been up and down and on the doorstep of divorce... .she treats me like garbage and life has become a crazy game is almost 24/7 disrespect and passive aggressive behavior... .I'm feeling broken and exhausted.

My question is this, the normal part of me want to reach out and check in as normal people would... .but, another part of me wants to disconnect and respond only if she reaches out... .feeling somehow that might help me to break part of the cycle of dependence... .

Feeling conflicted... .

[TommyBahama]

Hi NewStart, sorry to hear that about what you are going through.  I can't say what is best but I can tell you what I so.  I would send my wife a text message once a day, just to say I sent it because if I don't she will complain later that I did not.  So maybe just send check so that she won't have that to use as ammunition for an argument when she returns.  The longer you can go without an argument, the more time you have to decide and plan the future with a calm mind.