A few years back Xw and I had a parental assessment done. The forensic psychologist who did the assessment said I was codependent and didn't out right diagnose Xw but worded in her report that it was very strongly suggested Xw has a personality and will most likely carry this into future relationships through out her life. We did some pretty intense, deep tests page after page, hundreds of questions. It this considered a diagnosis?
Doesn't look like it bus boy. It sounds like there were indicators, but further testing and interviewing would be required to diagnose.
Check this out, it explains how BPD is usually diagnosed:
I Think It's Borderline Personality Disorder, but How Can I Know?heartandwhole