Trying to figure it out

[Imsosad]

Hi... .My relationship just ended after 3 years on and off full of confusion. I read Stop Walking on Eggshells and found it very familiar but I'm still unsure and in so much pain. I feel like a shell now and still wonder if it's me with so many defects. I need help getting through this. It has left me in a depression from hell.

[Naughty Nibbler]

Welcome Imsosad:  
I'm so sorry about your breakup.

I'm still unsure and in so much pain. I feel like a shell now and still wonder if it's me with so many defects

What are you unsure about?  Sometimes it can be the combined actions of 2 people that cause a relationship to break up.  What defects do you think you have?

   It has left me in a depression from hell

Depression sucks.  Do you have family or friends to talk to? The end of a relationship is like a grieving process for the death of a loved one. It is a process you have to work through.  It may not seem like it now, but things will get better.

Do you want to tell us a little more about your relationship? This is a safe place or share.

Take care.

[Eazie520]

Having been with someone who is BPD I can tell you first hand that it is crazy making.  You walk away feeling like YOU are the one with the issues.  You feel crazy for trying to help, crazy for wanting the relationship to work.  But it's not you. It's the BPD.  I am sorry you feel depressed.  I am in the same boat but all I can do is take it one day at a time.  Hang in there.