My BPD partner had just left. Can't cope

[tazzy100]

So after an intense 10 month period my girlfriend left me.
She had sex with one guy, then met another the following weekend and is now in a new relationship with him.
I only found out by going round at 2 am and catching her walking in with new guy.
I then only learned she has BPD two nights ago after racking my brain for a week wondering why she is like this.
Was such a relief to finally understand all the torment and I wish I had known 10 months ago.
Now she has gone, cut all contact and looks at me like I'm nothing.
I'm finding it very difficult to cope, huge withdrawals... .

[Lucky Jim]

Hey tazzy, Welcome!  I'm sure it is hard to see your former GF with another guy.  How did you learn that she has BPD?  What makes you think that she suffers from BPD?  Fill us in, when you can.

LuckyJim

[tazzy100]

I was confused as to the intensity and longing I felt towards her after such a violent manic relationship.
I began reading about abusive relationships and then came across BPD and bingo.
Everything was describing my partner!

[Mutt]

Hi tazzy100,

I'd like to join LuckyJim and welcome you to bpdfamily. I'm glad that you decided to us, I'm sorry that you were treated that way. When you say violent, do you mean she was physical with you?