I have finally figured out my wife has BPD, and we have a 10 year old daughter. If it were not for my 10 year old, I would leave her!
I feel trapped, suffocated.
I am so screwed up.
I need help.
Hi Jo-Jo
similar story here - except I am a few years ahead of you with a S14. Same feeling exactly. Somehow I manage to keep sane thinking of when my life will get back on the rails. I have heard that 60 is the new 40 - that really cheers me up.
You will get tons of advice on here - it seems you have decided to see your daughter's childhood through - understandable - only you know whether an exit strategy along with your daughter is the best option - or even feasible or doable.
In the meantime - I do recommend you read through some of the tools on here - might at least help you develop strategies to cope and prevent escalation - conflicts etc.
But first perhaps - why do you think your wife has BPD?