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Author Topic: Best wishes and good luck to all of you out there  (Read 723 times)
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« on: December 24, 2017, 12:11:36 AM »

The festive season can bring on many triggers for everyone, especially those struggling with a BPD relationship. Keep your wits about you and be prepared to use everything you learn here.

Most of all don't come down on yourself too hard when something goes wrong.

Tin hats and teflon suits may be required at times.

If anyone has any uplifting and unexpectedly good stories to share at the end of it all please do share, it is all too easy to get caught up in how things often go wrong
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« Reply #1 on: December 25, 2017, 01:30:07 AM »

Thanks for this thread! A great idea!
Any way my uBPDh is working a night shift into Christmas morning and I just finished putting out presents for the kids. Him having to work Christmas has given us the space to appreciate each other via text and given the kids space to be excited about Christmas without getting scolded for being too excited! It's working out really well so far!
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« Reply #2 on: December 26, 2017, 09:03:34 AM »

Thanks waverider! Overall things were quiet on my end. H was late to my mom's but that was about it. When I got home from visiting family yesterday we just vegged out on the couch watching comedy horror movies.
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« Reply #3 on: December 27, 2017, 12:11:12 AM »

Ours was relatively easy. She had been out of hospital for about 2 weeks due to excessive meds etc and as a result taken off a lot. So she was fragile to say the least.

I made absolutely no pressure to make it festive, She was getting stressed about not having decorations done so I put them away and said we didn't need them, and the kids came around on boxing day instead of christmas day, and everything was as low key as possible, just like any regular family dinner.

Still had a bit of a cry , and went to bed early, but didn't dump on anyone. So relatively easy and "normal" in a non toxic dysfunctional way
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« Reply #4 on: December 27, 2017, 05:27:36 AM »

Thank you WW, and best wishes to you for a great 2018.

I know you have your moments, as everyone does, but how you are able to carve a place to be yourself- and not be swayed by the changing emotions in your partner is a great example and a good thing for you. Your posts have always been helpful and inspiring.

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