My girlfriend is having BPD

[DC123]

Hi everyone,
Me and my gf, we've been dating for 3 years. At first, her smoking didn't bother me because I'm a smoker myself. Then, she turned crazy. It was wrong of me to describe her like that, but she does need help. Frequent mood swing and inflict pain on herself (I saw her cutting on her left hands). Sometimes, I wake up in the middle of the night finding out that she was about to cut me too. I love her. I don't see her as a crazy person. She needs help. We need help.

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[Tattered Heart]

Hi DC123,

Welcome ,

I'm sorry that you are going through a difficult time in your relationship. The frequent mood swings can be so frustrating and the cutting can be scary. When you find that she has been cutting, how do you respond? What does she say about it?

When you saw that she was about to cut you, did you feel like you were in serious danger?