Husband has Borderline Personsality: Want to Leave

[Pinkdress88]

My husband has Borderline personality. We have been married for17 years and I'm just tired. I have two teenage boys and do not feel like I can leave because of them. I've been struggling in my marriage from the beginning, but just recently read Walking on Egg Shells and cannot believe how much I can relate to this with my husband. I don't want to disrupt my boys life by getting a divorce. But, I also don't know if I can wait until they are out of the home. I'm a strong woman and have a career which keeps me busy, but I'm now starting to beat me down with all of the verbal abuse and difficulties with each thing he is involved in. I just don't want to have anything to do with him anymore. He has caused me so much trauma in my life and I just want it to stop. Ugh! He will have days when he's in a good mood and acting normal and then he will come home in one of his moods. He's so negative about everyone and everything. I've always thought that he was a little different than other people, but after reading the Walking On Egg Shells Book I now know what it is. I know that I cannot spend the rest of my life with him. Just don't know what to do.

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[Mutt]

Hi PinkDress88,



You have a right to be happy. I can relate with your post, staying in the marriage for the sake of the kids.

There was a lot of conflict at my house, I don't what it's like at yours, is there a lot conflict? Do your teen boys see how their dad treats their mom?