BPD relationship breakdown

[Eastwood78]

My partner keeps accusing me of cheating on her and had beliefs i want to cross dress etc

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[JoeBPD81]

HI Clint78,


Please, tell us a little more about your relationship with your partner and BPD.

The jealousy is a very common topic here. My gf always thinks I'm cheating, and my life is very very boring. She believes that, no matter that all evidence is clear against that, and that I'm allways with her. She also gets paranoid about me being gay. Nothing against gay people, but I'm not. Never been even curious about it.

The thing is, it is real for them. So depending on how we respong to that, it hurts them and that hurts us in return. They believe it with all their heart, so when we say no, or get angry, they think we are calling them stupid, or trying to fool them, or calling them crazy. Nothing good comes from that. We are in a pickle.

[Tattered Heart]

Welcome ,

I'm sorry that you are being accused of things that you are not doing. Jealousy in a BPD relationship is pretty common. When you are accused, how do you respond?

We have a workshop on How to Deal with a Jealous Partner . This might help give you some insight into how to address these accusations.