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Author Topic: I've tried dating again and met a nice woman  (Read 479 times)
Lost-love-mind
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« on: October 23, 2017, 05:55:06 AM »

Not to mention the overall quality of life. When you in a constant state of anxiety, this affects all aspects of your life. I'm sure I was a worse employee... .

I think things will get better with time. I'm a handful of months out NC and now I'm re-establishing myself and getting used to being single again. It's a little unsettling at times but very much needed. I thought I was ready to date, but I'm just taking it slow right now.

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Nice to hear your update.
I've tried dating again and met a nice woman. Decided To set boundaries. Thought it was clear on calling. Woken up Sat night after long days of volunteer work to multiple texts of "you suck".
I only met this woman once.
Time to regroup, AGAIN.
TG no emotional equity spent this time.
Shalom.
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« Reply #1 on: October 23, 2017, 08:11:13 AM »

That just sounds like an immature woman or maybe a big miscommunication.
Why did she send you those texts?

When you said you decided to set boundaries, I'm curious what exactly you said to her?
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« Reply #2 on: October 23, 2017, 12:32:44 PM »

That just sounds like an immature woman or maybe a big miscommunication.
Why did she send you those texts?

When you said you decided to set boundaries, I'm curious what exactly you said to her?

The boundaries were if I Was exhausted from volunteering over the weekend that I would call her Monday or Tuesday. She actually suggested those boundaries in her texts back to me after I told her I was up late Thursday finishing a report for work.

Again, I met this woman once. Never talked on the phone. Texted my apology about my work required my attention.

This incident is so reminiscent of my exBPD and her constant texting as main line of communication.

I'm recovering from a cold exBPD that refuses to have contact. I know I'm worthy of a strong confident woman that can communicate or allow space for prearranged times of communication.
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« Reply #3 on: October 23, 2017, 05:19:35 PM »

Are you feeling strong and confident yourself?  Just curious to know how you are feeling and if you truly believe you are ready to put yourself out there.

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