I found out he didn't file for divorce like he said he would

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

So, the truth comes out. I broke up with him over two years ago, in September 2015, when I found out he didn't file for divorce like he said he would. It had been over 3 years since he said he would file in July 2012. Despite the fact I broke up with him he moved out here last month, 2 days after he filed for divorce. I guess he was thinking we could get back together but I held a very firm boundary with him and only offered him friendship so after a month of being here he skipped town after a cryptic online smear campaign. Now people are asking me about him and telling him he's left. I feel so utterly angry because they don't want to hear the truth, they really don't care. I never felt so powerless in my life. When I was a kid I could run away and ultimate move away from my abusive mother. In this case this guy created relationships in my community, at my job, at my church, in my family, to make himself look like the good guy and most people bought his bill of goods. I've been on this merry ground for five years and he finally threw me off and instead of feeling grateful I feel angry. I'm the one who had been trying to take space, I'm the one who had been telling him to chill but instead he made it all about me as if I were the bad person. Talk about the ultimate victimization.

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So, the truth comes out. I broke up with him over two years ago, in September 2015, when I found out he didn't file for divorce like he said he would. It had been over 3 years since he said he would file in July 2012. Despite the fact I broke up with him he moved out here last month, 2 days after he filed for divorce. I guess he was thinking we could get back together but I held a very firm boundary with him and only offered him friendship so after a month of being here he skipped town after a cryptic online smear campaign. Now people are asking me about him and telling him he's left. I feel so utterly angry because they don't want to hear the truth, they really don't care. I never felt so powerless in my life. When I was a kid I could run away and ultimate move away from my abusive mother. In this case this guy created relationships in my community, at my job, at my church, in my family, to make himself look like the good guy and most people bought his bill of goods. I've been on this merry ground for five years and he finally threw me off and instead of feeling grateful I feel angry. I'm the one who had been trying to take space, I'm the one who had been telling him to chill but instead he made it all about me as if I were the bad person. Talk about the ultimate victimization.