Given your history with your ex friend it is very likely she will come around... .she always seems to. You just need to decide if this is a friendship worth continuing because it will always be like this... .she finds someone new and you get left in the dust.
And that really isn't fair to you.
I really don't see it happening this time. It's been nearly five months, and other than a three word reply to a "Happy Thanksgiving" email I sent her, I've heard nothing. I would at least like to be cordial with her, to at least be acquaintances. We have been through a lot together, and it gives me comfort to at least hear from her and know she's alive and doing well.
My ex has a friend we will call "Jules". Jules is always there for my ex but my ex (behind her back) calls her names and says terrible stuff about her months into whatever new relationship she is in.
Perhaps the toughest thing has been that she really never trashes me. I suppose she could say things about me to her friends, but I have never met them and don't plan on ever meeting them, so I really don't care. But she never talks bad about me to her mom. If she really hates someone, she will talk badly about the person to her mom. All she has ever said to her is, "We aren't friends anymore." Sometimes, I think it would be easier if she did hate me and trash my name.
My ex doesn't have friends, just enablers who are willing to be ignored for months at a time, sometimes years and will defend her when she needs them, but NEVER vice versa.
She has friends. They aren't necessarily people I would hang out with, but she does have some close ones whom she hangs out with a lot. Actually, one of them is also friends with her boyfriend, so they all hang out together. And she's also friends with her friend's girlfriend. Of course, they all came after her last suicide attempt, so they don't share the same history with her that I do.
You likely will watch this new relationship play out like the others. Different timeline but they all seem to end the same way.
It's definitely possible. So far, they have made it through some events (birthdays, holidays, vacationing together) that have ended all of her previous relationships, but living together is an entirely different situation for any couple.
How are YOU doing, Summer Storm? What's happening in your life nowadays, besides your interaction with your ex?
Busy, mostly. Two of my classes have their persuasive research paper due tomorrow by midnight, so I will be spending a lot of my time grading those so that they are all done before Christmas break starts. But in general, the school year has been going well, and I like all of my students. And I just bought my first DSLR camera, so I've been learning how to use it. I have good days and bad days. The holidays are always tough, so I'm definitely ready for 2018 to just get here already. [/quote]