"I'm not able to talk with hurtful comments between us."
Cool -- I sent her that text.
Are you evaluating the financial risk you are exposing yourself to by allowing her access to "your" money?
I've cut all financial ties with my wife. She has to ask me for money... .no ability to "take" it.
We do have separate accounts, but through the same bank and we share our passwords with each other. So it's easy to transfer money back and forth. Most of the time this is very convenient, but this is at least the second time she's done it without my initial consent.
The first time (this summer), I changed my password for a while. I eventually shared it with her again as a show of trust while we were patching things back up.
I think it's likely that I'll change it again soon. (Although it's pointless until I get paid later this week -- there's nothing to take!)
