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I was wondering what everyone's thoughts are when it comes to putting boundaries in place or expressing disappointment and hurt with a BPD Mom. Many times, the reaction to any form of criticism creates so much more chaos and dysfunction. Is it worthwhile, or even important to say anything when a boundary is clearly crossed or just ignore and not react?
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Hi gvw, welcome!
In terms of your mom, are you living together, or if not, close by? How often do you see each other? Is she diagnosed?
I didn't realize my mother had BPD or BPD traits until ten years after she had passed when I discovered my wife's BPD and connected the dots. Could I go back now with the knowledge I have, I would have done things a lot differently.
Could you share some examples of boundaries you feel are being transgressed?
Here you will find a lot of stories from people with common problems. I suggest you read and join in some related threads to gain some context for your situation and learn from other's experience.
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What kinds of boundaries is your mom crossing?
We have some discussions which may help. Let us know what you think:
1.08 | Boundaries - examples
I like the particular discussion above since it makes me think about my own values and my limits.
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