Sister from hell

[TiaNinaT]

Many many years not knowing what triggers a hatred toward me from my younger sister. At this time I have been caring for elderly parents for 4 years, and she has made my life very difficult to maintain my own self-health.  My father died a year ago and she wouldn’t even drive with our family to the cemetery, accused one of my 4 brothers of abusing her physically the night before. It was a lie, but she always convinces my mother that we (4 brothers and me), are all lying and against her.
At this time tonight, right now, I am pretty overwhelmed that I might have a way of helping myself navigate this crazy life with her.  I’m very grateful for all of you.

[Kwamina]

Hi TiaNinaT

You've had quite a lot on your plate, caring for your elderly parents while also dealing with your sister's difficult behavior. I am sorry your father passed away a year ago. Do you feel like you were able to truly mourn his passing with everything that was/is going on?

It is sad how a family-member with BPD can affect the entire family and family dynamics. Why do you think it is that your mother so easily believes what your sister tells her? How would you describe the relationship between your mother and sister?

... .she has made my life very difficult to maintain my own self-health.

You mentioned the events surrounding your father's passing. Could you tell us a bit more about the other things your sister has done which you feel makes it difficult for you to maintain your own well-being?

Did your sister always exhibit difficult behavior like this, also when you were younger, or was there perhaps a certain turning point after which her behavior started to change?

Welcome to bpdfamily

The Board Parrot

[Woolspinner2000]

Welcome and hugs for you   TiaNinaT!

I'd like to join Kwamina in welcoming you! 
So glad you've come to join us and that you shared your first post with us. It can be overwhelming to find a finally find a ray of hope in a world such as yours that has been tumultuous at best.

Many many years not knowing what triggers a hatred toward me from my younger sister.

At this time tonight, right now, I am pretty overwhelmed that I might have a way of helping myself navigate this crazy life with her.  I’m very grateful for all of you.

We'll be here for you and do our best to help you. This is a great group of listeners and so much information to guide you. Have you taken time to look at the list on the right hand side of our board? -------->> > Anything you click on opens up into a larger window. Where do you see yourself? Everyone is at a different spot in their journey.

Looking forward to hearing more from you!

 
Wools

[jnssbc202]

I'm joining the others in welcoming you here. I, too, have a younger sister who is full of hatred towards me. You are not alone and are certainly understood here. Welcome.

[YouHadMeAtHello]

Add me to the list of people who is targeted by a younger sister.  Growing up my BPD sister was always mad at our dad and blamed him for everything.  Over the years that blame has shifted to me.  Lucky us, right? 

You definitely aren't alone!