If you have a BPD sibling, please don't hesitate to introduce yourself

[Our abuse recovery guide]

Hi   everyone,
I joined yesterday. I have a BPDbro and with a similar situation like NancaBell described however we are probably a few years away from him losing his free ride as both my parents are living still. Bro lived with parents almost of his entire life. Multiple cars purchased for him. He is the executor of their will! My mother was going to change it and then he caught wind of it, he was in my parent's ears for weeks guilting them and now he's firmly their executor. Mother refuses to change it. But I need to accept he's sick according to her when I distance myself or stick up for myself! Crazy.

I'm so tired of talking about my BPDbro and how to proceed with him. I have a child and I'm not liking the behavior happening in front of him. So here I am. Thanks for reading!

[BabySister]

Hi   everyone,
I joined yesterday. I have a BPDbro and with a similar situation like NancaBell described however we are probably a few years away from him losing his free ride as both my parents are living still. Bro lived with parents almost of his entire life. Multiple cars purchased for him. He is the executor of their will! My mother was going to change it and then he caught wind of it, he was in my parent's ears for weeks guilting them and now he's firmly their executor. Mother refuses to change it. But I need to accept he's sick according to her when I distance myself or stick up for myself! Crazy.

I'm so tired of talking about my BPDbro and how to proceed with him. I have a child and I'm not liking the behavior happening in front of him. So here I am. Thanks for reading!

[hellebore1]

Here's my story.  Older half brother "A" with uBPD.  I've been NC for about 15 years now, my mom is very low contact after years of therapy.  Ours is probably as close to a success story as you can get with a BPD sibling with agnosognosia - both of us with boundaries to his behavior.  Actually I talked to my mom quite a bit about this after I wrote it, things are better with her than I thought. 

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=325477.msg12971917#msg12971917

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I try to visualize them like a square foot of soil where I got my start, the place my seed put down its first shoots. It's hard soil and the plants look chronically thirsty, and the stinging insects and poison ivy are to be avoided. But it's surrounded by acres and acres of this garden I am tending, a beautiful one with all the flowers and food that I like, that I planted, with lots of people who love to wander through and spend time appreciating what I've grown.

Thank you! This mental image is beautiful and is really what I needed today. Good for you for recognizing the madness and taking care of yourself