In the short time that I’ve been focusing more on this board, I’ve found it to be the most helpful board here through my learning and acceptance.
Good for you for taking on the tough stuff and facing your past.
Acceptance can be very hard through the scope of a survivor of childhood abuse. How do we come to accept horrific acts that we would never contemplate perpetuating onto a child?
For me, acceptance that the abuse happened is enough. Acknowledgement of the damage is what is hard but it is all that really matters to me in terms of healing and changing me.
I’m adopted and threw out a theory on adoptive children not becoming disordered because there wasn’t an infant/mother bond there. The mother never had psychological/biological control over a brain that wasn’t born from her.
Do you mean you threw your theory out as in you no longer believe it or threw it out as in you put it out there to talk about? (sorry but yes, I really can be that dense! )
Tough times have a tendency of defining our moments. Personally, I’m tired of allowing this to happen. What happened to me isn’t my definition. What happened to me is a life lesson that that cycle needs to end in a multigenerational cycle.
Kids are a blessing, always. For you, as you raise your son, you will probably confront many childhood issues. You are ahead of the game because you are aware and attuned to both your past and your sons future. Hard hard work but so worth it for the both of you. hug-2
