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Nomii08
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« on: December 12, 2018, 08:41:19 PM »

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My husband and I have had an on and off "buddy situation" until we officially became a couple Oct. 2015. I cheated early in the relationship, but we married anyway July 2016. Conceived Sept. 2016 and gave birth May 2016. So the past couple of years have been a whirlwind.

Because of my infidelity hes tried to discard our relationship multiple times, but never left completely. I've caught him on 3 occasions flirting with other women, even having a picture of himself with one just last year saying they had an affair he denied it.  Possibly from being financially dependent on me at the time. Now, I'm a stay at home mom and he is now the bread winner.

We came to a new start for a fresh start but ended up losing the apartment half had to stay with his family. For a month and a half. Struggling but we seemed to be in the same page and in love. Even discussing our own plans for view renewal at my sister's wedding. This past September. Then end of Oct we stayed with my sister after a Halloween party and he gotten upset towards the end and discussed feelings of jealousy involving family member friends. We tried to alleviate his thoughts and seemingly did. He left. I stayed the entire month if November.

Hes made a female friend whom he says is his missing piece and wants to to separate. But claims to be in lust with me.  Hes been lying to keep me aloof even though I've done my own looking. Just trying to figure out why he keeps coming back and lying if he doesnt "want me".
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« Reply #1 on: December 12, 2018, 11:11:59 PM »

Hi Nomii08 and welcome!

The issue of trying to determine a partner with BPD or BPD's traits motivations for being in the relationship is very common here. I think the best way to get started on the board is to post on other member's threads to gain some context and community.

Perhaps you could share more about your husband's behaviors and what brought you here. Besides the inconsistency in his messages to you, does he have other BPD like traits?

Sending you strength,
RolandOfEld

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