Recently separated

[Growingpebble]

Hi everyone, just recently separated from my spouse of 17 years, who I strongly suspect has BPD. I’m hoping to gain insight into how to move forward and coparent with him, while also setting appropriate boundaries. Thanks for reading.

[Turkish]

Hi Growingpebble,



How long have you been separated, how old are you kids,  and is there a custody order? Love to hear more and how best we can help.  What do you feel are major issues at this point?

Turkish

[Insom]

Hi, Growingpebble   Allow me to join Turkish in welcoming you. 

I hear Boundaries and Setting Limits are a concern.   Would you like to say more about what's feeling wrong to you?

[JNChell]

Hey, Growingpebble. How are things going? We haven’t heard from you in a minute. Come on back and give us an update. Let’s continue the conversation.

[CryWolf]

Please update us when you can pebble 

[Mutt]

Hi Growingpebble,

17 years is a long history is this your first separation? We have tools here that help with r/s (relationships) and communicating with a pwBPD if you're interested in that. If a r/s is not working it's a good idea to try a different strategy