Confession

[YorkieLady]

It is my spouse who brings me here, I'm seeking support. His latest uncontrollable fit of rage has cost him his freedom, he's off to prison for committing another act of violence in the household.  I've recently come to the conclusion that he suffers from BPD. His changing moods, irresponsibility, idolization and then devaluing of not only me, but many people in his life. His over-exaggeration of  the smallest issues, or the complete inability to deal with any issue, often turning away from needed conversations regarding finances or our marriage. He comes up with idiotic reasons to not get something done. Everything is always someone else's, or my fault. The lying, the grand plans that never come to fruition, the wasting of money, the drinking, the blaming, projecting, and endless demands to have his needs met, while mine go ignored.

Now, I have to confess... .I'm glad he's gone. I can finally have some peace and concentrate on me. But I find myself sitting here reading about BPD, wondering if he'll get treatment when he gets out (in just over a year), but I'm also wondering "Why should I care?" He's done and said so many destructive and hurtful things to me, over and over and over again, and he has got to be the worst husband in the world!

I'm hoping to find other's who've decided to end the roller-coaster ride and heal their own lives so I can commit to it as well.

Thanks!

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[once removed]

hi YorkieLady and

wow... .a year is a long time apart.

what happened? was he violent toward you?

[Harri]

Hello and welcome!  I am glad you are reaching out for support.  We can definitely give you that here.

Now, I have to confess... .I'm glad he's gone. I can finally have some peace and concentrate on me.

I think it is okay to feel relief and be glad he is gone.  Feelings just are. 

I hope you share more of your story.  It helps to have the big picture so we can better help you. 

Please feel free to jump in and read and post in other threads.  We all support each other here.