Pregnant and my partner is going out on benders

[Sunshine_m92]

HI! I HAVE RECENTLY FOUND OUT THAT I AM PREGNANT WITH MY PARTNER OF 4YRS. IT WASNT PLANNED AND HAS BEEN A SHOCK FOR BOTH OF US. WHEN I JUST FOUND OUT HE WAS SUPPOTIVE AND SAID ALL THE RIGHT THINGS TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER AND EVERYTHING WOULD BE OK, WE STARTED LOOKING AT HOUSES AND JUST HAD AN OFFER ACCEPTED. NOW I AM STARTING TO STRESS A LOT BECAUSE HE HAS STARTED GOING ON MORE DRINKING SESSIONS AND NOT COMING HOME UNTIL LATE AND IM SITTING LIKE AN IDIOT CRYING WONDERING WERE HE IS . HE WANTED TO TALK TONIGHT AND THEN JUST WENT OUT DRINKING AGAIN. I UNDERSTAND ITS A LOT OF CHANGES IN SHORT PERIOD OF TIME BUT IM LOSING MY RAG WITH HIM I HAVE BEEN THERE FOR HIM THROUGH A LOT AND WE HAVE HAD ARE UPS AND DOWNS BUT I JUST NEED HIM TO BE HERE TO SUPPORT ME. HES STOPPED TAKING HIS MEDS WHICH I SAID TO HIM ABOUT AND HE JUST RESPONDS WITH I DONT WANT TO TAKE THEM. IV SAID TO HIM LOADS OF TIMES ABOUT CBT HE SAYS HES ON THE WAITING LIST, THIS WAS BEFORE DECEMBER AND STILL HASNT HEARD ANYTHING APPARENTLY. JUST LOST AT WHAT TO DO NOW

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[Ozzie101]

Hi Sunshine! Welcome!

That's a lot of stress and high emotions to deal with. I'm glad you found us here. We're a supportive board with a lot of tools and experience we can share that might make your situation better.

Has your partner been diagnosed with BPD? A diagnosis doesn't really matter in the grand scheme since it's the symptoms and learning how to deal with those that are of the most importance. Can you tell us a little more about him and what symptoms he has that cause difficulties in your relationship?