Sister with BPD

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I’ve been struggling with how to handle my sister with BPD.. it’s been many years and I am just EXHAUSTED. Between the highs and lows, I am just to my breaking point and I don’t know what to do anymore..

[allygirl]

 

I’ve been struggling with how to handle my sister with BPD.. it’s been many years and I am just EXHAUSTED. Between the highs and lows, I am just to my breaking point and I don’t know what to do anymore..

[Only Human]

Hi allygirl and Welcome to BPD Family! 

Having a relationship with a pwBPD (person with BPD) is exhausting indeed and I'm glad you reached out here for support. My pwBPD is my DD25 (25-year-old daughter) but I grew up with a sister with many BPD traits so I have an idea of what life may have been like for you. I was the people pleaser in my family and felt so so bad for my parents having to deal with my sister's out of control behaviors. I tried to be good so they could get a break, you know?

Can you tell us some more about what behaviors you're having difficulty with? It helps to have more information so we can know how to best support and advise you. 

I'm glad you're here - you will find a lot of great support here, and many others who know what it's like.

Again, welcome!

~ OH

[Harri]

Hello.  I want to join Only Human in saying welcome to the board. 

Please do share more with us.  It really helps to talk with others who get it and can relate.  We all have a family member with BPD or BPD traits so you are in the right place for support.  It helps to read other stories to know you are not alone and maybe see how others are handling certain situations.

So please settle in and feel free to jump into threads and read and post.

 

[HappyChappy]

Hey Allygirl,

I feel for you, I’ve been there, emotionally exhausted. BPD techniques are designed to wear us down into submition. But the good news is there's loads you can do. Sounds like a healthy boundary between you and your sister may help you right now. A bit of time for yourself. If you’re happy to share more detail, that would make it easier to give specific advice. But for now, be good to yourself, get yourself the break you need, maybe stop responding to your Sister for now ?