Adult Daughter with bpd

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I have an adult daughter, 49, who has just been diagnosed with bpd. I joined this group to share and receive information and experiences. I always thought she was bipolar. She never shared a lot about what her psychologists said about her so never really knew anything except that she had wild mood swings, a lot of suicidal ideation, etc. This recent diagnosis of bpd has been a tremendous relief to me in so many ways.

 It was necessary for her to have a psyc evaluation because she has had a very hard time holding down a job and I am giving her some support but have insisted that she apply for disability and this is part of that process. . I don’t know if she will because one minute she believes she’s disabled and the next she doesn’t. I first suggested it to her 9 years ago and this is the closest I’ve gotten her to take any action. She has absolutely classic symptoms of bpd and so interesting...she has a degree in psychology. She didn’t show signs of bpd as a child, teen or young adult. I feel like I’ve lost the person I once knew as my daughter except for the times she’s  not angry or acting crazy. She’s very cyclical. I’m currently enjoying a time in the good part of her cycle. She also has some other health problems making the situation more challenging.

[suzanr]

I have an adult daughter, 49, who has just been diagnosed with bpd. I joined this group to share and receive information and experiences. I always thought she was bipolar. She never shared a lot about what her psychologists said about her so never really knew anything except that she had wild mood swings, a lot of suicidal ideation, etc. This recent diagnosis of bpd has been a tremendous relief to me in so many ways.

 It was necessary for her to have a psyc evaluation because she has had a very hard time holding down a job and I am giving her some support but have insisted that she apply for disability and this is part of that process. . I don’t know if she will because one minute she believes she’s disabled and the next she doesn’t. I first suggested it to her 9 years ago and this is the closest I’ve gotten her to take any action. She has absolutely classic symptoms of bpd and so interesting...she has a degree in psychology. She didn’t show signs of bpd as a child, teen or young adult. I feel like I’ve lost the person I once knew as my daughter except for the times she’s  not angry or acting crazy. She’s very cyclical. I’m currently enjoying a time in the good part of her cycle. She also has some other health problems making the situation more challenging.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Only Human]

Hello suzanr and

I joined this group to share and receive information and experiences.

You've found the absolute best place for all you are looking for, we are glad you found us. I hope you'll settle in and become part of the family here as we all learn together and work toward better lives for ourselves and our loved ones. You are not alone.

One thing we encourage is acts of excellent self-care. Our mental and emotional well-being is just as important as our children's, more so even. We are learning to put ourselves first, difficult for many of use, caregivers that we tend to be

I'm glad to hear you are enjoying a good time in her cycling, it can be overwhelming otherwise. Are you able to identify things that trigger the "bad times?"

Thanks for sharing a bit about yourself and your DD - we look forward to getting to know you and how we can best support you. I hope to hear more from you soon

~ OH